It might be 8 weeks in the womb, 16 weeks in the womb, 42 weeks in the womb or even a few hours on this earth. That child that you are carrying in your womb is a person with an immortal soul from the moment of their conception. They are your child, they are someones brother or sister, they are someone niece or nephew, they are someones grandchild or great-grandchild. Just because they only lived for 10 weeks in your womb doesn't mean they are any less a child because they didn't take a breath on this earth.
I completely understand the not wanting to tell people that you are having a child, losing that child and then having to go back and tell all those people that your child died. I really do. I was the same way. I had to do that exact thing 42 weeks after conception.
If God calls you to endure the greatest thing He can ask of a parent, then give your child a name and celebrate every year their entrance into heaven. You now not only have a child, but you have a little saint in heaven who is praying for you and waiting for you.
I know it is hard. It is really hard. There are still nights I cry myself to sleep for little Joan, but it does get better. As I said before once you realize that she not only died, but she also lived you will find greater peace in your heart.
Your baby is your baby at the moment of conception. Your baby has been your baby for two to three weeks even before you get your positive pregnancy test. Let us let the culture of life shine by letting everyone share in the joy of that life. Even if that life only last for a short time in your womb, it is still a life and worth celebrating.
If you have lost a child before it took a breath on this earth always remember that when you reach your heavenly home, you will find your child waiting there with a bouquet of flowers and saying "Thank you mom and dad for the gift of life."